Have you ever thought that because you are overweight; too thin; not well developed enough; etc that's why you are not attached? If you are - stop! Look around you; aren't there people who are plain looking in great relationship?
There will be superficial men and women around who will always think their partners are not good enough. If your partner is like this; you are better off without them.
Anyone worthy of your time will love you for yourself and won't mind the physical imperfections. Similarly if you truly love someone, you will look pass his / her physical imperfections as well.
But having said that; if you wish to lose some weight to look better; or change that hair style; by all means do it. Make those changes cos you want to and not cos you want to find a partner.
(Reflection : Anyone worth having will love you for yourself)
Rule Number 7 - Don't Keep Making The Same Mistakes
This is pretty obvious isn't it? But somehow people will fall into this trap time and time again and seems incapable to breaking the pattern of their behaviour.
Why is this so? Actually it is all because of some subconscious "programming" of sort in their childhood. These memories are giving out "signals" which attract the not so desirable partners.
So if you too have such a problem you have to break the pattern; no matter how hard it is. It will be all worth the effort.
(Reflection : You have to decide whether to commit your life to a strong of failed relationships)
Rule Number 8 - Certain People Are Off Limits (You Know Who They Are)
Know anyone who have at some point of their life got involved with someone off limits? Someone who is married? Someone who is someone else's partner? Or maybe someone from a different religion?
Different people have different "off limits" points, so what is off limits?
You are your best gauge - that is - if you are in that situation will you do it? Will you have a fling while in a stable relationship? Will you be sleep with your best friend's partner? Will you be exchanging flirty text messages with your married boss, etc etc?
No one knows your limits but yourself. So set a limit which you know you can hold your head high always.
(Reflection : I don't know where you draw your line. But you do)
Rule Number 9 - You Can't Change People
If you are naturally a tidy person, will you become an untidy person so as to please your partner? If the answer is no; then why would you think your partner will change from being untidy to tidy?
This applies for the bigger things as well such as being abusive or being spendthrift.
Yes, you can try and change their behaviour but you cannot change their personality / character.
So, if you cannot live with these characteristics, then do not get involved! Do not think that you can change him / her. You cannot and you will be miserable!
No one is perfect and everyone will be irritating once in a while, including you. So find that someone whose irritating habits you think are worth putting up with!
(Reflection : Everyone can be irritating from time to time in a relationship (including you))
Rule Number 10 - Relationships Aren't About Sex
Great sex with a partner is a wonderful thing; but it is not the only thing. This is because the sex drive can start to drop when other pressing matters pop up such as children, work, finance, etc. Then what happens next? Sex stop; relationship stop?
Yes, bedroom activity can help strengthen a relationship, but it should never be everything in a relationship.
You see friends rushed into a committed relationship cos the sex is great then when the going gets tough you see them facing lots of problems. There are exceptions, of course. So do not kid yourself that with great sex, the relationship can be great. A true relationship needs more than sex alone to sustain
(Reflection : The danger is that you will mistake lust for love)