By Annie Chan. Extracted from Richard Templar "The Rules of Love"
Rule Number 56 - Respect Privacy
So, your partner is keeping things from you? Well, that's their prerogative. You sure you have been 100% honest with them? You kept nothing from them? Come on, we all have some matters we rather keep close to our hearts.
They cannot be trusted? Then why are you with them?
You trust them. If so, then what is your problem??
Being in a relationship does not give you the right to poke your nose into every part of your partner's affair. Your partner has his / her every right to privacy. And you should not be giving them a hard time just because they want some privacy.
Respecting of privacy can in fact strengthen a relationship. Try it.
(Reflection : Just because they love you, it does not mean they have to abandon every last shred of personal identity)
Rule Number 57 - Treat Your Partner Better Than Your Best Friend
Why are you with your partner? The person whom you believe you would spend the rest of your life with? Cos you love him or her isn’t it?
If that is so, don't you think you would want to treat him or her as best as you could?
Eg. if a buddy accidentally ruin your favourite DVD, what are you likely to do? Laugh it off maybe? What if it was your partner who damaged it? Will you react the same or you become a yelling machine?
Well, you get my point! If you love them, treat them well. Period!
(Reflection : This is about respecting your partner and treating them kindly)
Rule Number 58 - Don't Be Offended If They Want Some Space
Though most of us can be social creatures... we still like some space at times. So when your partner requests for that space, don't go ballistic and think that he / she does not want to spend time with you. This is not about you, it is about them.
Some just need a little me time to do something they enjoy.
It might be once a week or once a month or maybe when they are feeling upset and just need that space; whatever it is, give them that space.
However, if it is happening all too often and you do not quite put a finger into it, then you might wish to talk about it directly with him or her instead of starting to suspect your partner. Remember : Trust.
(Reflection : Some people need space and if you deny them, they will start to feel trapped)
Rule Number 59 - Men Like Flowers Too
We give gifts to our partner during occasions such as birthdays, Christmas, Valentine's Day, etc. But how about giving them little gifts just because you want to; no reason; no occasion?
When was the last time you gave your partner a gift purely cos you want him or her to feel good and you will feel good giving the gift?
If you have never done anything of that, it is good you start... no need to wait till Valentine's Day. Do it today!
It need not be expensive gift... just a little gift to show them you were thinking of them
P.S. It is ok to give you man flowers....as long as not those huge bouquet
(Reflection : When did you last give your partner a present?)
Rule Number 60 - Keep Your Finances Separate
Most couples would probably have a joint account. There is nothing wrong with them; in fact it is probably recommended cos this account can be the core account to pay for household expenses, kids expenses and maybe even holiday trips.
If so what is this rule about?
Well, this rule is about maintaining a separate account AFTER you have contributed your share to the join account.
This personal account is for your own spending - eg. monthly shopping spree; favourite hobby; etc. With this personal account, you really do not have to worry if your partner blew his or her own money on things you do not quite agree on!
(Well, you need to start worrying if he / she comes to you to fulfill their material spending)
We have all heard how money can break an otherwise fantastic relationship, so why give money that chance.
(Reflection : If your partner wants to blow all their savings on something you consider frippery, that is their business)
So, your partner is keeping things from you? Well, that's their prerogative. You sure you have been 100% honest with them? You kept nothing from them? Come on, we all have some matters we rather keep close to our hearts.
They cannot be trusted? Then why are you with them?
You trust them. If so, then what is your problem??
Being in a relationship does not give you the right to poke your nose into every part of your partner's affair. Your partner has his / her every right to privacy. And you should not be giving them a hard time just because they want some privacy.
Respecting of privacy can in fact strengthen a relationship. Try it.
(Reflection : Just because they love you, it does not mean they have to abandon every last shred of personal identity)
Rule Number 57 - Treat Your Partner Better Than Your Best Friend
Why are you with your partner? The person whom you believe you would spend the rest of your life with? Cos you love him or her isn’t it?
If that is so, don't you think you would want to treat him or her as best as you could?
Eg. if a buddy accidentally ruin your favourite DVD, what are you likely to do? Laugh it off maybe? What if it was your partner who damaged it? Will you react the same or you become a yelling machine?
Well, you get my point! If you love them, treat them well. Period!
(Reflection : This is about respecting your partner and treating them kindly)
Rule Number 58 - Don't Be Offended If They Want Some Space
Though most of us can be social creatures... we still like some space at times. So when your partner requests for that space, don't go ballistic and think that he / she does not want to spend time with you. This is not about you, it is about them.
Some just need a little me time to do something they enjoy.
It might be once a week or once a month or maybe when they are feeling upset and just need that space; whatever it is, give them that space.
However, if it is happening all too often and you do not quite put a finger into it, then you might wish to talk about it directly with him or her instead of starting to suspect your partner. Remember : Trust.
(Reflection : Some people need space and if you deny them, they will start to feel trapped)
Rule Number 59 - Men Like Flowers Too
We give gifts to our partner during occasions such as birthdays, Christmas, Valentine's Day, etc. But how about giving them little gifts just because you want to; no reason; no occasion?
When was the last time you gave your partner a gift purely cos you want him or her to feel good and you will feel good giving the gift?
If you have never done anything of that, it is good you start... no need to wait till Valentine's Day. Do it today!
It need not be expensive gift... just a little gift to show them you were thinking of them
P.S. It is ok to give you man flowers....as long as not those huge bouquet
(Reflection : When did you last give your partner a present?)
Rule Number 60 - Keep Your Finances Separate
Most couples would probably have a joint account. There is nothing wrong with them; in fact it is probably recommended cos this account can be the core account to pay for household expenses, kids expenses and maybe even holiday trips.
If so what is this rule about?
Well, this rule is about maintaining a separate account AFTER you have contributed your share to the join account.
This personal account is for your own spending - eg. monthly shopping spree; favourite hobby; etc. With this personal account, you really do not have to worry if your partner blew his or her own money on things you do not quite agree on!
(Well, you need to start worrying if he / she comes to you to fulfill their material spending)
We have all heard how money can break an otherwise fantastic relationship, so why give money that chance.
(Reflection : If your partner wants to blow all their savings on something you consider frippery, that is their business)
RSS Feed
